What To Expect When You ‘re NOT Expecting

When I was a teenager, the thought of pregnancy did cross my mind in terms of the scary mentality when PSA’s ads, rumors from friends and relatives were constantly reminding about having a baby out of wedlock could means that your social life and everything around you is over. Having to sacrifice everything for the sake of the baby is a double edge sword. Having to face the bad stares of even strangers and the humiliation it implies it seems too much to bear. I saw first hand the disintegration of traditional marriage (gay people have nothing to do with it) by teenage pregnancy that caused it. Instead, I dedicated my energies somewhere else.

And I took care of myself physically by being safe. Believe it or not I waited until I was 26. I didn’t get married until I was 30. But I didn’t know I was struck on an issue that is as secretive and hush hush such as infertility. Although there’s millions of women suffering in silence whether if its medical, physical or emotional, the issue of trying to become pregnant unsuccessfully is not as a big issue as teenage pregnancy by society standards. But there’s programs to eliminate a percent of unwanted pregnancies from agencies like Planned Parenthood, contraceptives, condoms and Plan B pills if there’s an accident. Mostly are low priced and even free. But when it comes to bring a child into this world and you want to know what’s going on because you tried, even with ovulation charts, temperature and all that, you have to pay an arm and a leg for “experimental” procedures the most common is IVF (In-Vitro Fertilization). Most couples are struggling in this crappy economy and struggling to conceive. Insurance companies don’t cover IVF (In-Vitro Fertilization), so what choice do they have? Applying for loans? Charity? Asking for money? And time for some have given out on that and opt for “adoption”. But what about couples who can’t fit into the adoption mold? Should they have to give up on that too?

For my experience, keeping my reproductive problems silenced from my family, friends and co-workers is unfair as well as insane. If women brag constantly about pregnancy, baby clothes and hospital stays why not talking about infertility? A woman who tried everything, and yet nothing happened inside her womb yet, mentally is a wreck, physically is a let go and spiritually is in limbo. Being a woman who can’t have children of their own is being stripped on her natural role, her natural humanity and have to learn to ignore and move on like we’re just robots.

About financial issues, if you are living paycheck to paycheck, chances are you’re never gonna be able to have kids. There’s no financial help from the government about fertility issues unless you move to Canada where it’s covered. It’s a lose-lose situation.

If there’s a lot of programs free or income scale for pregnant teens, perhaps non-profit agencies could get more help for infertile women achieve pregnancy by doing the same thing. It’s unfair that millions of women (including me) have to deal with the pain, embarrassment, silence of not be able to have kids and deal with the humiliation that it carries.

Dude, Where’s Your Bible?

Christianity and Humanity doesn’t mix well, except there’s people like the notorious Pat Robertson who for decades every time he talks on his show “The 700 Club” it’s always sounds like he’s high or dumb as a kite. From the moronic to the occasional controversial bites, Mr. Robertson’s last straw was the issue of “counseling” when a viewer named Ivy was asking him, if she can forgive him and trust for his husband’s cheating. In that moment, Pat lost his marbles on replying a lame excuse “Oh, he’s just a man.” Among other issues, “Males have a tendency to wander a little bit, and what you want to do is make the home so wonderful that he doesn’t want to wander.”

Ok, at 83 years old doesn’t suppose to have some dignity (if he have some left) and quit “The 700 Club?” Why we have to deal with this guy who is lost on believing in God and believing in his ego?  I wonder how many screw up people are because of his commentaries. It makes the Bible and Christianity looks very bad.

To say without consulting God’s wisdom and Bible knowledge, it’s like going up a cliff and have this blind faith that God is going to catch you when He just said “Don’t GO there.”  And Pat is going above what God is saying. And there you have it, you have a car crash. What happen if it was a woman cheating on his husband? I would be I hear “Stone the Bitch” all over the soundwaves.

About Adultery or Cheating, it’s a double edge sword that can destroy the trust and true love of your significant other.  It’s the couple’s best interests no matter what they beliefs are to fix their relationship. It’s not easy, but hell, it takes time. Many couples have been dealing with it and some have succeeded in fixing it. It’s about dedication, not blaming on themselves or keep playing the game.

I think this time Pat should retire for the sake of Christians everywhere and for the sake of himself.

Damaged Credit? No Job.

I used to understand that in order to get a job, you must have to have all the information the employer requests, like your name, address, any job experience, references and the most important question, “Have you ever been convicted of a crime?” If you answered with a yes, the final decision would be upon the employers hands if you’re gonna get hired.

But now a days, employers are actually distrustful of soon to be employees, that they have to find out if they’re legal citizens, if they’re using drugs, or the most important and most discriminatory tactic they use: YOUR CREDIT.

Based on the US Equal Employment Opportunity Commission, employers can’t discriminate because of sex, religion, national origin, age, disability or genetic information. But employers are discriminating the other way around by checking their credit check. I wonder since when these people started to think outside the box like that? Even in the recession a person who was months unemployed depending on unemployment benefits running out at any moment, finding a job is a never ending quest of disappointments where they don’t receive the news the dearly wanted and bills are piling up, unexpected illness occurs and they’re stuck between living under a roof to living inside the car or homeless.

But not all is lost. In 2009 the Congress enacted a bill called H.R. 3149 (111^th): Equal Employment for All Act which make it illegal and discriminatory for all employers using consumer credit checks to determine new candidates eligibility for a job. Sadly, this bill is still in phase one, and not many Americans know this bill. By making this bill into law, employers don’t have any other choice than hire potential candidates based on their performance and their criminal background, not their finnancial status. So, if you want your dream job, you better write your senator or congressmen in your area, make this bill sign into law so that every company can’t get away with it.

By the way, even though I’m a responsible, hard working individual my credit score is 543.